My Two Cents on the Self Magazine Tutu Debacle, Part 2 ~ The Positive Side

Ok, at first, I just kept adding updates to my rant from yesterday. (If you missed that or have no idea what I am talking about, go here.) Then I realized that there were a lot more updates, and although I ended my hate-filled rant with some positive words, I just wanted to give the updates its own positive place… it’s own post. ;) I’m not taking sides, I just want to “accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative”… it’s an oldie if you don’t know it.

So this morning, per CBS News This Morning (Self magazine apologizes for mocking cancer patient), SELF Editor in Chief, Lucy Danziger, personally emailed Monika Allen an apology. Apologies have also been posted via their website, twitter and facebook page. While they declined a statement for this CBS interview, they stated that they have since donated to Monika’s charity and offered to cover her work in a future issue.

And then I saw on the Glam Runner facebook page, this message of great positivity:

“Thank you everyone for the overwhelming support! While we were hurt by SELF Magazine’s use of our photo in their magazine, instead of bashing them for their mistake we’d like to embody the Girls on the Run San Diego spirit and show our solidarity with our positive response. Do something awesome and dedicate it to Glam Runner - post an encouraging quote on Facebook, go for a run in your neighborhood, shout encouragement to runners on the street, or wear a tutu in your next race. Help us share why #tutusrock!”

Then Ms. Danziger’s blog post on the SELF website, My Conversation With the Awesome Monika Allen, appeared tonight. Even if you hate SELF, I think it’s worth the read to find out more about Monika. She really is awesome. Her positive attitude, humility, and drive in the face of cancer at such young age completely inspires me beyond imagination. I, myself, was obviously furious with the magazine at first, and I’m not saying I’m in love with them now, but 1) I know I preach that I am not perfect and struggle to forgive my own self, and 2) the hatred and negativity that is swirling around this can’t be good for us. And the ladies at Glam Runner have another positive message for us on their facebook page:

“We appreciate the apology from SELF Magazine. We’re ready to move forward and put this all behind us. Instead of bashing Self, let’s focus on the positive. This debacle has raised $4121 for Girls on the Run San Diego in the past 24 hours! That’s nothing but good.”

So let’s keep running and wearing whatever the heck we want! Let’s rock our tutus! (Yes, I said “our!” Even I have considered wearing one before, and now the urge is stronger!) Let’s volunteer our time to our local Girls on the Run. Don’t have one near you? Let’s start a Council. Let’s run a marathon or 10k to raise money for Girls on the Run through the Solemates program. Let’s donate to Girls on the Run International or our local council. Let’s start our own fundraiser just like Monika did. And let’s make a donation in support of brain tumor research through the University of San Diego School of Medicine’s Department of Neurosciences, where Monika is being treated.


Because that’s the way Monika wants it.

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My Two Cents on the Self Magazine Tutu Debacle

Tara and Monika from Glam Runner and Girls on the Run in the LA Marathon - YOU ROCK!

Ok, surely you have seen this little nugget, Magazine Makes Fun of Cancer Survivor’s Tutu, floating around facebook and cyberland? If not, I’m here to pull you into the loop!

The short story: Monika Allen is a brain cancer survivor, who has her own tutu company, Glam Runner, that raises money for Girls on the Run, who ran a marathon during chemo in a tutu. There’s this great picture. SELF magazine asked to use it. Then they infer that running in tutus is lame.

Look, I’m not personally big on running in tutus, I rarely wear skirts or dresses in my everyday life!, but what the hell, SELF? For such a small blurb, you sure have made a bunch of mistakes!

#1: First and foremost, the biggest mistake… You slammed a woman (in less than 50 words!) in a tutu, who owns a tutu company, who is a cancer survivor, and raises money for a kid’s charity. Way to go! Guess someone forgot to fact check that part!

#2: I would be pissed too if someone asked to use my picture in a national magazine, and then inferred that what I am doing in the picture is lame and what my company provides is lame too. Way to smash any girl’s self-esteem!

#3: Small potatoes, comparatively, but you’re also talking about NYC’s Central Park, and this picture is from the LA Marathon. Again, where is that fact checker?

#4: Thanks for the apology statement to NBC San Diego. Where the hell is your apology to this “awesome” (to quote your apology) woman? (NOTE: By the time I finished this rant, I found another public apology statement mentioned at the end of this post.)

#5: I have never in my life heard any runner say I’m wearing a tutu because it makes me run faster! Let me ask again, where is that fact checker? What are the sources on this one?

#6: Perhaps you were trying to debunk this so-call unheard of myth that tutus make you run faster. Too bad you still made fun of running in tutus in the process. Way to put down millions of women (Oh, and some men too! Did you see some of the photo’s on Glam Runner’s facebook page?) who get joy out of this!

Ok, so no one’s perfect. People make mistakes. I get it. I’m one of them. But I still can’t believe that not one person questioned this!

And literally since starting to write this, according to USA Today, SELF Editor in Chief, Lucy Danziger, said she had no idea that Monika had been through cancer and the item should not have been run. (Fact checkers? Editors? Were they on vacation?) She also said she will personally support her charity. Now that’s more like it!

And although tragic that Monika has been through cancer, my thoughts, Ms. Danziger, are that even if she didn’t have cancer, even if she didn’t own a tutu company, even if she didn’t support an organization that promotes self-confidence in young girls, if women want to run in freaking bunny suits, whatever the reason, don’t knock ‘em! They are still doing amazing things to better their lives!

Now, let’s look at the good that will come from this. Glam Runner is going to have an amazing following! And it looks like Girls on the Run San Diego will have what we hope is an amazing donation! And women runners in tutus (and not in tutus!) have united across the country to say, “Eff you, we rock!”

And thanks, Monika for being you and standing up for yourself and making your disappointment heard.
Love, Women Running Around the World

Now go like that Glam Runner facebook page! ;)

Other Bloggers’ Two Cents:
Miles, Muscles & Mommyhood: SELF Magazine: LAME
MommyWifeRunner: My open letter to Self magazine
The Anti-Jared: Monika Is Better Than SELF Magazine
Fit and Feminist: Lay Off the Women in Running Tutus (and That Includes You, Self)

(see my next post, My Two Cents on the Self Magazine Tutu Debacle, Part 2 ~ The Positive Side for updates.)

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Weekly Weigh In: Getting Into the Groove

Alexis {Diva on a Diet}'s Official Weight Watchers Weigh In March 26, 2014Say what? Yep. I think I am finally getting back into the groove! (And Madonna is totally in my head right now!) I’m finally getting back into my old habits again! I’m doing what worked before! I haven’t completely lost it!

And was I perfect? No way! I ate out a few times, but made smarter choices (that’s the old habits part!), and had drinks this weekend. I didn’t go over points, but I used all my weeklies and almost all my AP’s. Oh yeah, and I tracked everything like I used to do!

Another old habit returning: Actually feeling the need to work out and sometimes enjoying it! *gasp!* This week I worked out 6 days and earned 35 Activity Points. Adding in the dance classes has really helped me enjoy it and not get bored with just running. Which in turn, has made running more enjoyable again!

In fact, I was scared that I signed up for an 8K next month. I have just not been into it. I’ve been barely pulling out 2-2.5 miles of straight running lately. The last time I completed a 5K distance was in January, and I had to walk some of it. But guess what happened? I ran 4.27 miles straight last Friday out of no where! And it wasn’t horrible. I actually felt good! And thought, hell yeah, I can do 5 miles in 4 weeks! I’m trying not to worry that my pace is nowhere near what it was in 2012 and focus on just doing it and pushing myself in other ways, like distance.

I also got back into my two cups of green tea a day thing. Well, make that during the work week! My schedule on the weekends is all over the place, and that’s when I splurge, use my weekly and activity points, and rarely ever make all my healthy checks!

Now as for all those lofty goals I had last week?…

#1: I’m still doing the DietBet challenge, and I appear to be on course for winning my part of the pot come April 9th!
#2: I haven’t had a chance to read any more of Choose More, Lose More for Life. But I did take a cue from it: Set small goals. So I didn’t hold myself to #3 and #4!
#3: There was no Ripped in 30 last week! I’m just not there yet. My focus is on running and dance class right now.
#4: I think I did one day of the Desire & Destiny Meditation. I was trying to wake up earlier to do it, but I have issues sleeping, and I’m not a morning person. Maybe I need to do it at night!

So what’s on the docket for me this week? (Other than to keep doing what I’m doing!)…

I have been out of my green smoothie breakfast habit for quite a while. So last night, I preped my smoothies for the rest of the work week and had my first today! A great way to get in 3 servings of fruits/veggies at the beginning of my day!

I’m trying to cut back on dairy. I’m experimenting. It may be affecting my sinuses. But I love…. no, make that adore cheese! And yogurt and cottage cheese are good cooking ingredients and easy low point protein snacks. I’m not sure if cutting back will even make a difference, but cutting it out completely just seems like punishment! It totally goes against what I like about Weight Watchers… nothing is off limits! I might just have to put up with a runny nose for cheese!

I need to get out of my head and stop beating myself up! I’m still mad I’ve gained this weight back, and I keep looking at “how far” I have to go again, as if I didn’t have to go even futher the first time! And I keep thinking about how I got down under 153 lbs in January and where I could be now if I had worked hard back then. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive and move on!

So how’s your week going? Do you struggle to get out of your head and forgive yourself? What’s your relationship with dairy? 

And I’ll be hanging out tonight at the #wwchat twitter chat hosted by Dani (@IrishEyes1982) from 8-9pm ET!

Weigh In Status: 28.7 lbs up from goal (you can see my entire weight loss log here.)

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